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Fri, Feb 09


Ontario, Canada

A Dynamic Legal Process for Family Disputes

The Compassionate Integration Process (CIP) Certification Training

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A Dynamic Legal Process for Family Disputes
A Dynamic Legal Process for Family Disputes

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Feb 09, 2024, 10:00 AM EST – Feb 11, 2024, 1:00 PM EST

Ontario, Canada


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The Compassionate Integration Process

“An Attuned Legal Process for Family Disputes”

Hosted by Lotus Law and WholeHearted. 

An immersive 3 day certification training in the Compassionate Integration Process (CIP), a dynamic approach to resolving family disputes in a trauma-informed way that is more effective, aligns with our humanity, and adheres to professional standards.

The CIP is a structured hybrid-protocol and a relational attunement skill that allows the holistic expansion and compassionate integration of current family law and alternative family dispute resolution processes. Learn the structured CIP protocol from Nicolle Kopping-Pavars and Natalie Derbyshire. (see bios below) Understand the impact of trauma and how to navigate it within the CIP through relational attunement skills taught by David Young and Heather Thalheimer. (see bios below)

Treating the entire family as a unit, the CIP acknowledges the practical and emotional needs of the whole family, not just the individual parties. This systemic approach redefines the concept of conflict by responding to family disputes through a trauma-informed lens.

Why is this process different than any other process?

  • The Compassionate Integration Process mandates a deep training in trauma before anyone can include the process in their conflict resolution skill set menu.
  • The process complements and is inclusive of all legal processes, certifications and training.

The goals of this process:

  1. To give the public a process that complements and expedites the court system should litigation ensue.
  2. To change the present family law paradigm so that clients are still armed with independent legal advice and knowledge/informed consent of the legal model while helping them to explore family-focused interest-based solutions as opposed to individual rights-based positions.
  3. To address the problem of non-disclosure/outstanding disclosure before litigation-bound parties enter the courtroom (minimize the risk of disclosure motions).
  4. To make participants feel more comfortable and safe by employing a ‘we care’ team-based approach, employing trauma responsive professionals to assist in the process.
  5. To allow for expertly crafted solutions with the assistance of neutral family and financial professionals.
  6. To reduce the workload of the judiciary by getting the case ‘conference-ready’ with a concise compassionate courtroom report summary that we hope will ultimately replace case conference/settlement conference briefs (which all too often contain positions and opposing narratives rather than settlement-focused solutions)

You will gain a comprehensive understanding of:

  • Type 1 Trauma & Type 2 Trauma
  • The Impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
  • Systemic and Inter-Generational Trauma
  • The Importance of Polyvagal Theory and Developmental Trauma
  • Signs & Symptoms of Vicarius Trauma

The training will equip you with tools to recognize, attune to, and effectively respond to your client's trauma. Delving into resourcing practices such as transparent communication skills, you will gain strategies for regulating your nervous system for higher levels of responsiveness to workplace stressors.

Remember, you are part of a team. These resourcing techniques are invaluable for combating burnout, compassion fatigue, vicarious trauma, and other prevalent health concerns within professional settings. 

Accreditation by the Law Society of Ontario has been secured:

Total Approved Professionalism: 9 hours and 0 minutes

Total Approved EDI Professionalism: 6 hours and 0 minutes

Where: The Glenerin Inn and Spa: 1695 The Collegeway, Mississauga, ON L5L 3S7

For those requiring accommodation we have a group rate secured at:

The Admiral Inn and Suites 2161 North Sheridan Way Mississauga, ON  L5K 1A3

Please call them to book your accommodation at 1 888 236 4660  and use the Group Code: ATTUNED

Single occupancy per room per night : $149.95 CAD plus HST (for Canadians)


Friday, February 9, 2023 : 9am – 8pm ET

Saturday, February 10, 2023 : 9am – 3pm ET

Sunday, February 11, 2023: 9am – 3pm ET


Nicolle Kopping-Pavars

Nicolle Kopping-Pavars is primarily a Peacekeeper– understanding, enhancing and keeping peace within.

Nicolle is a passionate advocate for Trauma Awareness and Responsiveness being recognized as an integral part of any system where emotion arises (Trainer and Facilitator in the Attuned Trauma Training Series).

Nicolle was a practicing family law lawyer and mediator for 25 years (South Africa and Canada) and now advocates for Mental health by providing programming that delivers balance and peacemaking processes to individuals, professionals and corporations who are committed to finding peace in their lives and practice. Nicolle is the founder of a new and transformational approach to Family Law called the Compassionate Integration Process. It’s a hybrid resolution focused model that allows access to justice and compassionate integration of family law modalities and processes. Nicolle has been a mentor and coach to law students both within Canada and abroad and is currently an associate professor at the Quinnipiac School Of Law (Conscious Contracts and Wellness Clinic).

Nicolle is a certified Mindfulness Instructor and author and presents workshops and training on Mindfulness, Emotional Intelligence, Conscious Communication and Trauma  both locally and internationally.

She is also a teacher on InsightTimer a global meditation app.

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Natalie Derbyshire

Natalie is pleased to return to the FDRIO board of directors, having first served from 2015-2017, when she departed for maternity leave.  Since then, Natalie was named Partner at Stanchieri Family Law and she has continued to work on behalf of FDRIO’s Family Violence and Complaints committees. Her most notable contribution to FDRIO to date was conceived when Hilary Linton invited Natalie to join her in planning and co-chairing the first FDRIO Unconference.

Natalie was called to the Ontario bar in 2006.  She earned her LL.B. at Osgoode Hall Law School, after having graduated cum laude with an Honours B.A. from York University in 2002. She has a passion for alternative dispute resolution and her preferred area of focus in her legal practise is collaborative family law. Natalie runs her own collaborative small study group, giving like-minded professionals the opportunity to brainstorm with one another whilst enhancing their skills, strategies, and collaborative toolkits.

She firmly believes that collaborative family law is cost-effective dispute resolution strategy that can be a recipe for a “win-win” outcome; the process can deliver excellent results for participants who are seriously committed to facilitating creative legal problem-solving in a transparent, open, honest, and respectful manner. Through interest-based negotiation, clients are able to maintain control over the resolution of issues arising from their separation.

In addition to her roles with FDRIO, Natalie also serves as a director for York Collaborative Practice, and she is a member of East York Kiwanis.

When Natalie is not at work, she most loves spending time with her daughter.

Heather Thalheimer

Heather Thalheimer is a content creator and author of WholeHearted Podcast's Four Minute Fridays and Being WholeHearted: Finding new ways of Thinking and Living. She is co-host of the Attuned Podcast series: Trauma & The Legal System. Professionally, Heather has extensive leadership experience in the nonprofit world and offers executive coaching and attuned leadership training for teams and individuals. Heather has presented at conferences and facilitated strategic planning for organizations in the Philippines, South Korea, Europe, and America.

Heather is the co-creator and co-facilitator of numerous courses including Attuned: Becoming Trauma Informed & Trauma Responsive In Professional Settings (accredited by the Law Society of Ontario) and Radical Wholeness: A 10-Week Online Journey. She is a student of trauma-informed care and collective trauma healing. She is a certified Thomas Hubl Transparent Communication Practice Group leader. As a coach, Heather recognizes the power of friendship and community in building a wholehearted life.

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David Young

As a group facilitator, certified meditation teacher, and coach. David supports communities to heal from collective trauma, re-establish healthy communication, and love fearlessly. With a background in East Asian philosophy, international diplomacy, and community development, David's dream is to create a culture of WholeHeartedness for future generations. He is co-host of the Attuned Podcast series: Trauma & The Legal System. 

David is the co-creator and co-facilitator of Attuned: Becoming Trauma Informed & Trauma Responsive In Professional Settings (accredited by the Law Society of Ontario) and Radical Wholeness: A 10-Week Online Journey. He is a student of collective trauma healing with Thomas Hübl and loves traveling and camping with his kids.

David integrates his lived experience as a black and asian bi-lingual male, living in the United States and working at a government think-tank in China.

David is also a teacher on Insight Timer, a global meditation app.

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