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a 3-day Retreat 
Sept 26th - 29th 2024


Many of our wounds were created in relationships —relationships to each other, to religious structures, to culture, and in community.

We were wounded in relationship and we can heal in relationships.

That’s why we’re coming together.


This is an opportunity for  . . .


  • People to have a third, neutral space outside of the UC to be able to explore various experiences of growing up, living in, leaving, being outside of, or currently participating in the UC.

  • Focusing on healing and restoring the wounds experienced during times related to the community, while acknowledging both the challenges and value of those experiences. 

  • Engaging with others who share similar experiences and understand the impact of these wounds that we carry in our bodies and in our relationships.

  • Being in a beautiful retreat location in nature with an atmosphere that fosters deep connections and healing experiences.



About The Program 

  • Focused Healing: Tailored for individuals connected to the UC community, this program centers on acknowledging, addressing, and healing the wounds experienced within our shared community.

  • Comprehensive Approach: The program takes a comprehensive approach to healing, offering insights into signs and symptoms of trauma, the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), and awareness of systemic and intergenerational trauma. Symptoms of trauma are seen as adaptive rather than pathological, and how feeling ashamed of them inhibits our ability to heal.

  • Safe Space: Provides a safe, inclusive, and nurturing environment, fostering trust and vulnerability essential for deep healing and personal development.

  • Inclusive Environment: It welcomes a diverse range of perspectives and experiences within the UC community, providing a space where individuals' unique stories and journeys are respected and valued.

  • Body-Mind Connection: Recognizing that wounds are stored in the body, the program offers a holistic healing approach that addresses both physical and emotional aspects, focusing on the body-mind connection.

  • Getting Unstuck: Explore strategies to identify where you hold wounding or trauma and how to digest and integrate your experiences, so they no longer hold you back.

  • Facilitated Process: Led by experienced facilitators well-versed in community healing practices, the program provides a safe and structured environment for participants to explore and heal, while gaining the unique wisdom and resilience of healed trauma. 

  • Healing Resources: Offers tools, techniques, and resources aimed at supporting you to continue your ongoing healing journey post-program. 

Why Should I Go? 

  • The memory of our wounds are carried in our body and impact our relationships.

  • Because our wounds are stored in our bodies, they do not disappear through “moving on” or “talking about it”.

  • Your body can digest, restore, and heal from collective wounding.

  • The benefit of doing the work of healing is the deep wisdom and freedom we gain for our lives. 

  • It’s a chance to talk with people who get you.

  • Because you’re ready for the healing process.

In this retreat we will cover

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Early Bird: $575 (closes June 16th) 
Regular: $700 

Virtual Fee: $150


Retreat Fee Breakdown 


Accommodation & Food: $300 (required for in-person attendance)


In-Person Retreat Tuition: $400


Early Bird In-Person Tuition Special: $275 (closes June 16th)


Online Tuition: $150



Program Schedule



5:00 PM - Arrival & Registration 

6:15 PM -  Dinner

8:00 PM - Orientation, Welcome, Housekeeping




7:00 AM - Qigong & Stretching  (optional)

8:15 AM - Breakfast 

Morning Session -  Welcome and Introductions

  • Why we created this retreat

  • What does it mean to be trauma informed

  • Pair Share

​10:45 AM – Break

Mid Morning Session -  Understanding Trauma and the Wounds We Carry 

  • Type 1 Trauma & Type 2 Trauma 

  • Developmental Trauma

  • Q & A 

  • Journal – How does this inform my experiences of growing up in or participating in the UC


12:15 PM - Lunch 

Afternoon Session - Polyvagal Theory, Relational Attunement, and Skill Building 

  • Polyvagal Theory and the Brain – the Four Fs

  • Q & A

  • Relational Attunement – why it matters.

  • Skillset to support healing from wounding and trauma: Interoception and Mentalization.

  • Interoception: Introducing the 3 Sync Practice 


3:00 PM  Break

3:20 PM - Movement Practice (optional)

Evening Session - Meditation & Relational Attunement Practice

  • 3 Sync Meditation 

  • Introducing the Practice of Transparent Communication

  • Triads

  • Q&A, Group Witnessing and Group Process. 

  • Reflection & Journaling

6:15 PM - Dinner


7:15 PM - Tai Chi – Yin Yoga – Relaxation (optional) 





7:00 AM - Qigong & Stretching  (optional)

8:15 AM - Breakfast 

Morning Session -  Understanding the Social/Emotional Environment of Your Family and/or Community Growing Up

  • Meditation

  • Pair Share:what are you learning so far? What questions do you have?

  • Why Environment Matters 

  • Authenticity vs Attachment

  • Triad:  What was the social/emotional environment in your family or community growing up? Did you experience the opportunity to be authentic? 


10:45 AM - Break


Mid Morning Session -  The Power of Collective Healing 

  • Meditation

  • Collective witnessing to support an individual – group process 

  • Pair Share 


12:15 PM - Lunch

Afternoon Session - Understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)

  • Review of relational attunement – what does it mean and why it matters. 

  • Understanding ACEs 

  • Review Personal ACEs score 

  • Reflection in triads


3:00 PM - Break

3:20 PM - Movement Practice (optional)

Evening Session - Generational Trauma

  • Generational Trauma Video and Q & A

  •  Meditation and group process 

  • Reflection – Journaling

6:15 PM - Dinner


7:15 PM - Tai Chi – Yin Yoga – Relaxation  (optional)





7:00 AM - Qigong & Stretching (optional)

8:15 AM - Breakfast 

Morning Session -  Vicarious Trauma & Organizational Trauma

  • Vicarious trauma and Organizational trauma

  • Take an Organizational Survey

  • Triad – Reflection on My Experience

  • Sharing and Q & A 


10:45 AM - Break

Mid Morning Session -  Meditation & Digestion

  • Meditation

  • Pair Share – What’s coming up for you

  • Group discussion


12:15 PM - Lunch (move out of rooms)

Afternoon Session - Reflection & Opportunities to Stay Connected

  •  3 Sync 

  • Silent Reflection and Journaling

  • Invitation to join a UC Digestion Hub

  • Feedback forms

  • Appreciation 



2:30 PM - Closing



**Please note participants are also invited to join the Benedictine Monk Prayer schedule (listed below) if you wish.


Thursday - Vespers/ Mass 5:00 pm

Friday- Matins 7:30 am and Vespers/Mass 5:00

Saturday-Matins and Mass 7:30 am/ Vespers only 5:00

Sunday- Matins 7:30/ Sunday Mass 11:00


About the Facilitators

David Young & Heather Thalheimer

David Young, M.A., CMMT is a certified meditation teacher, coach, and group facilitator. David supports communities to heal from collective trauma, re-establish healthy communication, and love fearlessly.


David is the co-creator and co-facilitator of Attuned: Becoming Trauma Informed & Trauma Responsive In Professional Settings, and Radical Wholeness: A 10-Week Online Journey. He is a student of collective trauma healing with Thomas Hübl and loves traveling, hanging out in tea shops, and camping with his kids. 

Heather Thalheimer is a content creator and author of WholeHearted Podcast's Four Minute Fridays and Being WholeHearted: Finding new ways of Thinking and Living. Professionally, Heather has extensive leadership experience in the nonprofit world and offers executive coaching and attuned leadership training for teams and individuals. 


Heather is the co-creator and co-facilitator of Attuned: Becoming Trauma Informed & Trauma Responsive In Professional Settings, and Radical Wholeness: A 10-Week Online Journey. She is a student of trauma-informed care and collective trauma healing. She is a certified Thomas Hubl Transparent Communication Practice Group leader. As a coach, Heather recognizes the power of friendship and community in building a wholehearted life. 

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